Is It Easy To Become Irresistibly Attractive To The Opposite Sex
Sure it is, but for those of us that are a little shy or not as confident, here are a few easy tips.
Self-confidence is probably the most important attribute to have when approaching the opposite sex. It’s something that comes out in not only your words but also in your body language and is extremely attractive.
According to Dating Coach and Your Tango contributor, Paige Parker, the top 10 easy steps to becoming irresistibly attractive to the opposite sex are:
- Getting out of the house (ok, this one is obvious)
- Dressing confidently
- Not walking like a New Yorker
- Be a billboard for happiness (love this one)
- Use body language to your advantage
- Attract attention with a prop
- Spark up spontaneous conversation
- Make others feel important
- A little flattery will get you everywhere
- Loosen up and laugh (love this one too)
Check out the details of these 10 tips on YourTango.com.
The Top 2 Online Dating Cities in America
Do you know what the top 2 cities for online dating are? We’ll give you a hint. They are both small in size with highly condensed populations.
Still can’t figure it out? Here are a few more hints:
- They both have thriving music scenes.
- Premium cultural attractions.
- Many places for local singles to meet.
- The top city for online dating has of over 50 colleges.
- The second best city to meet singles online is the federal government’s number 1 employer.
According to an article found in msn’s local edition Tampa Florida, the top city for online dating in America is Boston followed directly by Washington DC. In both of these cities more and more tech-savvy singles are looking and finding love online. Busy schedules and demanding careers are the main reasons these singles are choosing online dating. Of course we like the fact that there is safety in numbers, so we especially love these cities for safer first dates.
To read about other fabulous cities to meet local singles check out “The Best Cities For Online Dating” written by Francesca Levy for Forbes.com.
Burglars Use Social Networks To Find Empty Homes
By Jessica Walker
I read this article the other day about two teenagers involved in burglaries, some of which resulted from information they gathered on social networking sites. Ironically, over-sharing your information online is what these digital burglars and the creators of the location based services are banking on. Although these services are great for businesses, there are some serious privacy concerns for personal use. I immediately decided geolocation services was to be the topic for my next article and started my research.
Later that evening I went out with a friend. Before leaving the house I went through my usual routine of turning on a few lights and another light bulb literally went on in my head. How many people leave the lights on when they go out at night? How many stop their mail and newspaper delivery, or put their lights on timers when they go away on vacation, all to make it look like someone IS home? Then why do they sabotage that effort and announce to the world that they are NOT home online? Do they think only their “friends” see what they’re doing on Facebook?
Geolocation apps work like this: They report your location to other users and they associate real world locations (like restaurants, events) to your location. If you are on a social network and participate in this service, regardless of the privacy level you set, you’re increasing your level of risk. I found a related article written by Linda Criddle, the president of the Safe Internet Alliance, called “Think You’ve Got Nothing to Hide”? I especially like the last sentence where she sums it all up with a great piece of advice, “Perhaps the guiding privacy principle should be – always share less about your private life than Mark Zuckerberg, Larry Page, or Sergey Brin”.
As more social networking and geolocation services appear we need to revisit how we protect our digital lives like we do our real ones. Here are a few good places to start:
- Was Facebook and ‘Places’ burglars’ roadmap? Technolog on msnbc.com
- Facebook introduces ‘Places’ location-sharing program. msnbc.com
- Burglary ring targets Facebook users in New Hampshire. necn.com
- Where are you? Tips for using Facebook’s Places. msnbc.com
- Please Rob Me. saferdates.com
- Think You’ve Got Nothing to Hide? safeinternet.org
- Location Based Services: Safety Tips Video with Christopher Burgess. casttv.com
Until next time, here’s to keeping you Safer in the City!
- Jessica
About Jessica Walker~”Safer in the City” columnist I was very excited when asked to write a column for saferdates.com. I’ve been influenced by safety and self-defense pretty much my whole life. While other girls were making macaroni necklaces in Girl Scouts, I was sparring with boys, breaking boards and doing knuckle push-ups on cement in Tae Kwon Do class. Read my column titled Safer in the City.
He Fired Her They Reunited On Dating Site And Now They Are Getting Married
We found this story today, loved it and had to share it with our readers. This true story about a Tampa Bay Florida couple is a perfect example of changing your attitude towards a situation you can not change. It also shows that two people can have different interests yet similar values and having similar values is what truly matters in a relationship. The story goes like this: he fired her, they both signed up on the same dating site, she takes a personality test, he ends up being the best match, she contacts him, he asked her for a date and the rest is history.
What an inspiring story! Congratulations Kelly and Casey! Read all about this amazing true love story on tampabay.com.
5 College Campus Safety Tips
By Jessica Walker
I was shopping the other day and noticed the department stores already switched over their clothes to fall attire and it hit me… its back to school time! Instantly I was reminded to write something on college campus safety. When I got back to my office, I spotted an overlooked note, penned on my calendar back in May, as a reminder to write a post on this very topic. I remembered adding that note right after reading an article about the Virginia lacrosse player murder on www.foxnews.com.
My initial thought for this post was to gather as much information as I could get my hands on without overwhelming everyone at the same time. Then I found the following website and hit the jackpot: www.securityoncampus.org
Today, Security On Campus, Inc. (SOC) remains the first and only nonprofit organization dedicated to the prevention of criminal violence at colleges and universities nationwide through educational, awareness, and policy initiatives. SOC’s website provides access to a comprehensive database of campus crime statistics and other pertinent information. SOC has many major legislative accomplishments, one in particular called the Jeanne Clery Disclosure of Campus Security Policy and Campus Crime Statistics Act, a federal law that requires institutions of higher education to release campus crime statistics and security policies to their current and prospective students and employees.
I recommend all students and parents of students bookmark this site for easy future reference.
Plus check out the following five safety tips to consider when moving onto campus. Feel free to pass them around.
- Always be aware of your surroundings. We can’t say that enough! Be aware of strangers in your dorm. During the day, walk the campus to learn a couple different ways to get to and from class. Plus make a mental note of vulnerable areas and steer clear of them especially at night.
- Contact your campus security officer and request a report on campus crime history and talk to them about the vulnerable areas you spotted.
- Contact the local community safety officer assigned to the neighborhood(s) around the campus. Anyone can do this to learn more about their neighborhood. Your local community safety officer should know every criminal or future criminal in the area, that’s their job. Pick their brain, I did before purchasing my home and learned what neighborhoods to stay clear of.
- Make sure your dorm room or apartment has adequate locks on the doors and windows. You can have your parents install more locks before they head back home, if needed. Also make sure your door has a peephole and if it doesn’t ask to have one installed.
- Run a background check on your roommate and surrounding roommates by gathering information nonchalantly. Act like you’re getting to know everyone and just want to jot down their full name and date of birth. It should seem harmless to them. If not, just explain you like to pass out cupcakes on birthdays and what college kid doesn’t like cupcakes.
My college years were a blast. I would go back in a heartbeat. So have fun, be crazy, party, eat lots of pizza and cupcakes, while your metabolism allows it, but always remember to never, ever get too comfortable and let your guard down! Oh and I forgot to mention the most important thing, try and learn something while you’re at it. And I don’t mean how to become a master at chandeliers. My favorite drinking game!
Until next time, here’s to keeping you Safer in the City!
- Jessica
About Jessica Walker~”Safer in the City” columnist I was very excited when asked to write a column for http://www.saferdates.com/ I’ve been influenced by safety and self-defense pretty much my whole life. While other girls were making macaroni necklaces in Girl Scouts, I was sparring with boys, breaking boards and doing knuckle push-ups on cement in Tae Kwon Do class. Read my column to learn more.
What She Learned from Dating 100 Men
“She was 34 and she meant business, so she placed an ad with an online dating service and let the e-mails roll in”.
We really enjoyed reading this article written by Ann Marsh entitled “What I Learned from Dating 100 Men” and wanted to share it with our readers. We highly recommend reading it before your next date. It has such a positive vibe. So many articles written about dating these days portray rejection, or the end of a relationship, as a bad thing – not necessarily. Dating is a learning experience for both people and sometimes you learn to move on.
To continue reading and find out what lessons where learned by this serial dater go to The Oprah Magazine at Oprah.com.
Online Romance Scam Targets Women and Makes US Soldiers Look Bad in the Process
We spotted this online dating safety tip in the news this morning and wanted to share it with our readers. Help promote safer online dating and share this information with people you know who enjoy the many benefits of online dating.
Safer Dates believes awareness is always your best defense.
EL PASO – An online scam is taking aim at “lonely women” and making U.S. soldiers look bad in the process.
The U.S. Army says the scammers use the pictures and names of soldiers serving overseas on dating websites and start relationships with women.
The scammers then explain in order to continue the online relationship, because they say they are serving overseas, they need money for “special laptops.”
“We’ve even seen instances where the perpetrators are asking the victims for money to “purchase leave papers” from the Army or help pay for their flight home so they can leave the war zone,” An Army spokesman said.
To continue reading please visit NewsChannel 9
The Evolution of Safer Dating
It started with the mixers and the parties, then came the clubs and the bars, and now we see singles meeting online through dating and social networking sites.
Regardless of where you meet new people, you should always consider your safety first. Some argue that worrying so much about safety puts a damper on the whole dating experience. Untrue. Think about it, we do some of the following personal safety precautions every day, almost instinctually:
• Putting on a seat belt in the car
• Looking both ways before crossing the street
• Applying sunscreen when sunbathing
• Learning CPR
• Wearing a life vest while boating
These are great examples of accepted ways in which we are prepared and aware of how to avoid a hazardous situation.
While dating online, you still want to practice ways that eliminate potential hazards and although it may not sound romantic, your personal safety could be at risk if you ignore certain precautions. Here are a few of our recommendations that should help you be more prepared and aware while dating:
• Before going out, gather information on your date and share that information with friends and family. Keeping any romance a secret could lead to serious complications later.
• Be vague. You’re not being deceptive if you tell someone you live in a big city instead of saying you live in a specific town.
• Make sure your first date is in a public place and agree to meet them versus having them pick you up at home.
• Have someone call and check up on you sometime during the evening. You can always use code words to get out of an uncomfortable situation.
• Finally, before you go out with someone, make sure to always run a background check. Your safety is worth it!
While we’ve all evolved to the ever changing dynamics of dating, especially online, we still need to work on the adaption to a new set of safety precautions. Share these tips with your friends and family so one day they’ll be as instinctual as wearing a seat belt.
Online Dating Safety Tip
Whether you use an online dating service or a social network site to meet new people, never include your personal income information (even if asked). You can always share that with them later on an actual face-to-face meeting if there is a real connection there.
How To Apply The Laws Of Attraction To Online Dating
First, be truthful about yourself on your profile and you’ll attract someone with similar interests who will appreciate you for who YOU are.
Confidence is attractive, so think positive about yourself on your profile. We all have things about ourselves we want to improve upon but your profile should avoid negativism. Concentrate on what a great catch you are and even if you are incompatible at least you can enjoy yourself living in the present.
Second, focus on letting the relationship unfold naturally. Make sure, if you like the other person, you have a way to contact them to ensure some kind of future connection. Meanwhile continue to date and make a conscious effort to learn something new about each person you meet. People can be really interesting if you just give them a chance.
Third and most important, your first meeting should be in a public place. Then when you are comfortable plan an adventurous date. Be creative and have fun.
Fourth, talking about what you love and love to do will make you shine because that’s when you are at your best. Remember to also actively LISTEN, showing interest in your date and what makes them tick is a great way learn more about them.
Lastly, be proactive. Yes, by signing up on more than one dating site you’ll meet more people but you want to get out on that first date once you think there may be a mutual attraction. Sitting at home on the computer, waiting for serendipity to take over only brings happy endings in the movies. Being in control of your destiny is a self-confidence builder.
Now get out there and practice these positive laws of online dating attraction and have fun meeting new people!
