What Do Men and Women Want
The other day I was surfing the internet to learn more about what men and women want in their relationships. I wasn’t surprised when I found myself reading about why women want to change their men, but when I tried to find out more about why men want to change their women I hit a brick wall. Now this was a surprise. Is it because guys just don’t talk about that stuff, or do they even care? Are women really control freaks? According to “What Men Want in a Relationship”, written by Rinatta Peris, “men want what women want — a whole partner. One powerful way to attract a great partner and build a vibrant relationship is to create a full, rewarding life for your own fulfillment.” I then realized I had the perfect topic for my next article, “What Do Men and Women Want”. Basically, how to find a real-life partner rather than an idealistic version of one, thus avoid wanting to change them.
Since most online dating sites provide areas for you to tell a little about yourself; as well as, offer tools such as personality tests, they seem to be the logical choice for finding your ideal mate. They are the perfect resource to find what you want if used correctly. The best way to begin is to self-search before jumping into a relationship.
With that in mind, before creating your online dating profile, follow these simple steps:
- Make a list of how you like to spend your time including activities you enjoy doing alone. This helps to attract someone who likes doing similar things. As an added benefit, it will help you both avoid planning dates that are stressful and boring. You will have fun while learning more about each other.
- Read “Writing Your Dating Profile with a Smile”, by yours truly. Learn online dating tips from Yvonne Rice, a former Dating Agency Director and expert in the research of all aspects of the single lifestyle. She is a huge supporter of online dating and has researched 4,500+ online singles and over 6,000 online dating sites globally.
- Say cheese! Take your profile picture and make sure it shows who you really are. Of course you don’t want to include a picture of you in your scrubs, or the ever popular picture of you in a mirror shirtless pointing in the direction of the beach to show off those knock-out biceps. It’s important to look your personal best and although it’s fine to get advice from a family member or friend, make sure you’re comfortable with how you look. Confidence is something that makes us feel good about ourselves and is very attractive.
- Before taking the personality or compatibility test on the dating site, try taking the “Jung Typology Test”. It’s a short personality test that will help you learn about yourself without the distraction of trying to attract someone else. For example, after taking the test myself, I found out how important humor is in my life. I would make sure that was something I would include on my dating profile. Additionally, you will learn what career path is recommended for you and for some added fun; you’ll learn what celebrities and other famous people are just like you!
Since whatever you do early on sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, be honest with yourself now and look for the best mate to fit into your real life rather than trying to develop someone in the hopes that they’ll fit into your vision of an ideal mate later.
Here’s to keeping you Safer in the City,
~Jessica
Single Seniors Seeking-The New Online Trend
What is online dating sites fastest growing demographic? According to Time.com it is the 50-65 age group – the Baby Boomers.
For many seniors it can be hard to go out and meet people. Their social groups are smaller and the thought of going to a night club to hit on other singles just doesn’t sound like fun. They might feel awkward because they haven’t been out on a date in a long time and as a result, they choose to isolate themselves.
Fortunately, entering the dating scene just got a lot easier. One reason is that technology is becoming more fundamental in the lives of seniors today proving that technophobia is no longer a problem. For millions of seniors, a divorce or the loss of a partner at 50 drives them to find a new love, and after all there is no age limit on love. Finding romance or your soul mate is possible at any age.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher, a consultant with Match.com and Chemistry.com, had the following to say in an article written for thirdage.com: “I’ve always felt that online dating would be most popular among people who are 50 to 65. They know everyone in their family and social circles. Where are they going to meet people? They don’t have time to adopt new hobbies that are likely to introduce them to potential partners. And they are long past going to bars. In the old days we had different mechanisms, but those are gone.”
Consequently, many seniors are seeking companions online who share similar interests. They are learning that online dating really doesn’t take a lot of effort and can be done in the comfort and privacy of their own home. They have an advantage over the younger generation because they are more comfortable with who they are and, through their past relationships, they know what they’re looking for in a mate.
While online dating can be very rewarding, it’s important to be cautious. So before posting your profile, make sure to review the steps you can take to increase your online dating safety by reading “Online Dating Safety”, courtesy of ilookbothways.com. Then View Photos of Single Seniors in Your Area Free! Match.com
Empower Your Love Life This Weekend
It’s easy this weekend with Chemistry’s Free Communication Weekend – this Weekend! November 19th – 21st!
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Here’s how it works:
1.Take the personality test.
2. Be introduced.
3. Flirt, discover and get to know your matches before you meet them.
4. Finally, don’t just go on a date – go on a great date!
Eliminate the awkward silences and time spent with someone who has issues or traits that are deal-breakers. By getting to know the person behind the profile, you’ll feel like you are meeting for the second time on the first date.
The Advantages of Online Dating
Want to increase your odds of finding “The One”? Now is the perfect time to do just that through eHarmony. From November 5th through November 14th you can connect with your matches for FREE. Try the first online dating service to use a scientific approach to matching highly compatible singles.
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The advantages of online dating are:
- The vast number of people you can meet can’t be beat.
- The amount of time you can save by meeting people online is well worth the effort.
- Online dating allows you to express more of what makes you ‘you’ upfront, your likes and dislikes, religious beliefs, cultural background, ethnicity and personality traits, in your online dating profile.
- You can be more direct about the type of person you’re hoping to connect with and eliminate time spent with someone who has issues or traits that are deal-breakers.
- The monthly membership fee doesn’t come anywhere near what it would cost in travel, dinner and drinks for a traditional date, multiplied by the number of dates you would need to have before finding your soul mate.
In brief, by joining at least two Internet dating services in conjunction with any real life dating situation that may arise will increase your chances of finding the ‘right’ person and save time and money.
Is It Easy To Become Irresistibly Attractive To The Opposite Sex
Sure it is, but for those of us that are a little shy or not as confident, here are a few easy tips.
Self-confidence is probably the most important attribute to have when approaching the opposite sex. It’s something that comes out in not only your words but also in your body language and is extremely attractive.
According to Dating Coach and Your Tango contributor, Paige Parker, the top 10 easy steps to becoming irresistibly attractive to the opposite sex are:
- Getting out of the house (ok, this one is obvious)
- Dressing confidently
- Not walking like a New Yorker
- Be a billboard for happiness (love this one)
- Use body language to your advantage
- Attract attention with a prop
- Spark up spontaneous conversation
- Make others feel important
- A little flattery will get you everywhere
- Loosen up and laugh (love this one too)
Check out the details of these 10 tips on YourTango.com.
The Top 2 Online Dating Cities in America
Do you know what the top 2 cities for online dating are? We’ll give you a hint. They are both small in size with highly condensed populations.
Still can’t figure it out? Here are a few more hints:
- They both have thriving music scenes.
- Premium cultural attractions.
- Many places for local singles to meet.
- The top city for online dating has of over 50 colleges.
- The second best city to meet singles online is the federal government’s number 1 employer.
According to an article found in msn’s local edition Tampa Florida, the top city for online dating in America is Boston followed directly by Washington DC. In both of these cities more and more tech-savvy singles are looking and finding love online. Busy schedules and demanding careers are the main reasons these singles are choosing online dating. Of course we like the fact that there is safety in numbers, so we especially love these cities for safer first dates.
To read about other fabulous cities to meet local singles check out “The Best Cities For Online Dating” written by Francesca Levy for Forbes.com.
The Evolution of Safer Dating
It started with the mixers and the parties, then came the clubs and the bars, and now we see singles meeting online through dating and social networking sites.
Regardless of where you meet new people, you should always consider your safety first. Some argue that worrying so much about safety puts a damper on the whole dating experience. Untrue. Think about it, we do some of the following personal safety precautions every day, almost instinctually:
• Putting on a seat belt in the car
• Looking both ways before crossing the street
• Applying sunscreen when sunbathing
• Learning CPR
• Wearing a life vest while boating
These are great examples of accepted ways in which we are prepared and aware of how to avoid a hazardous situation.
While dating online, you still want to practice ways that eliminate potential hazards and although it may not sound romantic, your personal safety could be at risk if you ignore certain precautions. Here are a few of our recommendations that should help you be more prepared and aware while dating:
• Before going out, gather information on your date and share that information with friends and family. Keeping any romance a secret could lead to serious complications later.
• Be vague. You’re not being deceptive if you tell someone you live in a big city instead of saying you live in a specific town.
• Make sure your first date is in a public place and agree to meet them versus having them pick you up at home.
• Have someone call and check up on you sometime during the evening. You can always use code words to get out of an uncomfortable situation.
• Finally, before you go out with someone, make sure to always run a background check. Your safety is worth it!
While we’ve all evolved to the ever changing dynamics of dating, especially online, we still need to work on the adaption to a new set of safety precautions. Share these tips with your friends and family so one day they’ll be as instinctual as wearing a seat belt.
How To Apply The Laws Of Attraction To Online Dating
First, be truthful about yourself on your profile and you’ll attract someone with similar interests who will appreciate you for who YOU are.
Confidence is attractive, so think positive about yourself on your profile. We all have things about ourselves we want to improve upon but your profile should avoid negativism. Concentrate on what a great catch you are and even if you are incompatible at least you can enjoy yourself living in the present.
Second, focus on letting the relationship unfold naturally. Make sure, if you like the other person, you have a way to contact them to ensure some kind of future connection. Meanwhile continue to date and make a conscious effort to learn something new about each person you meet. People can be really interesting if you just give them a chance.
Third and most important, your first meeting should be in a public place. Then when you are comfortable plan an adventurous date. Be creative and have fun.
Fourth, talking about what you love and love to do will make you shine because that’s when you are at your best. Remember to also actively LISTEN, showing interest in your date and what makes them tick is a great way learn more about them.
Lastly, be proactive. Yes, by signing up on more than one dating site you’ll meet more people but you want to get out on that first date once you think there may be a mutual attraction. Sitting at home on the computer, waiting for serendipity to take over only brings happy endings in the movies. Being in control of your destiny is a self-confidence builder.
Now get out there and practice these positive laws of online dating attraction and have fun meeting new people!
Attract Him With Your Online Dating Profile
“Online Dating: 7 Signs You Shouldn’t Date Him” is an article we found on Your Tango yesterday and wanted to share with our readers. It really makes you think about re-writing your online dating profile.
Our Advice: When dating online, or in the real world for that matter, the message you want to convey to someone you are attracting is who YOU are. You don’t want someone to JUST be interested in fitting into your profile. Be descriptive about what books you like to read, movies you like to watch, hobbies you’re interested in, sports and music you enjoy. Your online dating profile is someone’s first impression of you. After all, how many times do you go on a first date in the real world and start spewing all the things you don’t like to do, or traits you don’t want in a partner.
Attraction is one way the online dating world is like the real world, so attract them in your profile instead of making them run in the opposite direction.
Dating Red Flags: How to Keep Your Children Safe
We found these dating safety tips on a blog for single moms and wanted to share this great advice!
Dating as a single mom is hard enough without having to question the motives of every man you date. But if you are a single mom with young children, it is important to know about the darker side of the fairy tale. When you jump into the dating pool, keep in mind that you might wind up meeting a man who absolutely adores kids, and can’t wait to meet yours. That is just one of the many signs of a man who loves children a bit too much – a pedophile.
The problem is especially prevalent on social networking and dating sites, where women tend to post photographs of their children. A simple click through a few networking sites and you can find plenty of single moms, just like you, as well as photographs of their children doing all sorts of cool things. While you might smile and enjoy the fun in reading about single moms just like you, consider your attitude if you were a pedophile attracted to young children. These single moms on social networking sites are a goldmine of possibility, because by getting to them, you can get to their kids!
Here are a few ways to keep your kids as safe as possible when you enter into the dating game:
- Keep your kids off the internet – period. Take down all the photographs of them on social networking sites. If you want to share photos with family and friends, create a secure account at snapfish, photobucket, or other photo-sharing sites, set it to private, and give it a password that only friends and family will know. Put your photos there, and nowhere else.
- Don’t talk about your kids on the internet. Though it’s fine to mention that you are a mother – potential dates need to know that much! – don’t offer information about your kids to anyone online. Make that the last thing you discuss, after you have gotten to know them rather well. If your potential date asks lots of questions about your kids or wants you to bring them along on the first date, that’s a big red flag, and you should steer clear.
- Do a background check. Check into everything you can concerning a potential date. Look at child offender registries, websites that cater to single moms who need to check someone out, and even go in-depth with google — try not only their name, but variations of their name, and also their online handles.
- Never leave your child alone with anyone you are dating. No matter how well you think you know them, don’t leave your child alone with them until you are absolutely certain that there is no ulterior motive. Pay attention to how your potential partner views your child, and if you see anything that makes you uncomfortable, it’s time to bow out of the relationship. When it comes to your children, you cannot be too safe.
Source: singlemomfinancialhelp.com
