The holidays are time to be with the ones you love, have fun with friends, and catch up with those you haven’t seen in a while. So where does your date fit in? How do you continue your new romance, not allow it to get serious too soon, and manage that alone time with family?
Here are a few tips to help you celebrate the season with your date, enhance your romance, and manage to have an enjoyable stress-free holiday:
- Get into the mood by checking out the Christmas lights after helping each other with your holiday shopping.
- Plan an outdoor activity like skiing or ice skating.
- Help each other with your holiday decorations. After decorating your tree maybe you can snuggle up on the couch and watch a Christmas movie together. Who doesn’t enjoy National Lampoon’s Vacation with Chevy Chase?
- Go to holiday parties together.
- Bringing your date to Christmas dinner should be something you do ONLY if you have been dating a while and are both comfortable with it.
Finally, what about the holiday gifts? By giving the gifts of time and attention, you’ll be able to enjoy the holiday season with your family, your friends and your date.
When you think of a Holiday Romance do you think of meeting someone in a tropical paradise with its warm gentle breezes, exotic plant life, and the opportunity to wear as little clothing as possible? That kind of vacation many times ends up being the one you read in that steamy novel you took with you on that trip. On these types of vacation holidays many people want to be left alone to read their books, bask in the sun, sleep in the afternoon and maybe schedule a massage with a Swedish masseuse named Sven ( got a little carried away there ). Anyway, why wait for the romance to just happen? Plan for it!
We all work too much so that limits the time we can just hang out and meet other singles. Planning an adventure holiday that offers a lot to see and do is the perfect way to unwind, discover new places, and meet someone. It’s less awkward and you can meet doing something you love. There is a bond that forms when you share an extreme experience and it’s accelerated when you’re on vacation.
Imagine fulfilling your deepest romantic fantasy with some of these dating adventures: Skiing in Colorado and then snuggling in front of a fire sipping a hot toddy. Try white water rafting in Costa Rica followed by dinner then dancing the night away. Go on a rain forest safari in Australia then learn how to play the Didgeridoo. Take a biking tour through Canada and bask in the spray of Niagara Falls. Plan your own roman holiday and take a cooking class in Italy.
The newest trend, Adventure Dating, is a fun way to meet singles and have a great time. Whether you join a singles Adventure Dating group or plan an unforgettable romantic adventure on your own, here are a few important tips to take with you.
- Stay in the present and don’t talk about home or work (leave the baggage at home).
- If you are going to another country – learn the language.
- Hang out with the locals and strike up plenty of conversations.
- Just be yourself.
- Be honest about your feelings.
- Be aware and use common sense when it comes to your personal safety: Don’t take rides from strangers, accept invitations to non-public places, including meeting someone at their house for dinner or drinks, and always let someone know where you are at all times. You can socialize safely and meet new people by just adhering to a few simple precautions.
To put it briefly, Adventure Dating is rejuvenating and there are no strings unless the universe collided and you want more than just an everlasting memory of your adventurous holiday romance. If that’s the case, make sure to get their information before leaving. Things also change when you are back in your surroundings and no longer in your romantic bubble, so buy those airline tickets soon and plan on visiting each other next.
Until next time, here’s to keeping you Safer in the City!
About Jessica Walker~”Safer in the City” columnist I was very excited when asked to write a column for saferdates.com. I’ve been influenced by safety and self-defense pretty much my whole life. While other girls were making macaroni necklaces in Girl Scouts, I was sparring with boys, breaking boards and doing knuckle push-ups on cement in Tae Kwon Do class. Read my column titled Safer in the City.
Still can’t figure it out? Here are a few more hints:
- They both have thriving music scenes.
- Premium cultural attractions.
- Many places for local singles to meet.
- The top city for online dating has of over 50 colleges.
- The second best city to meet singles online is the federal government’s number 1 employer.
According to an article found in msn’s local edition Tampa Florida, the top city for online dating in America is Boston followed directly by Washington DC. In both of these cities more and more tech-savvy singles are looking and finding love online. Busy schedules and demanding careers are the main reasons these singles are choosing online dating. Of course we like the fact that there is safety in numbers, so we especially love these cities for safer first dates.
If you’re still thinking about what to do for Valentine’s Day than maybe I can help. How about planning a casual afternoon of exploration in your home town. Acting like a tourist on a date is a great way to break the ice, check out places you’ve always wanted to see while offering a memorable experience.
The typical dinner and a movie setting on a first or second date can be a bit intimidating and awkward. This time around try taking the pressure off and enjoy an adventure through an unknown part of town. There are a lot of alternatives to dinner and a movie, such as museums and aquariums or for our members that live in the Tampa Bay area try heading over to the Manatee Viewing Center located in Apollo Beach.
This particular destination is safe because it’s a public place and the best part is its FREE. I spent Sunday morning at the Manatee viewing center and had a blast. There were a hundred manatee just a stones throw away from the observation decks. I even witnessed young sharks and sting rays showing off by sporadically jumping out the water and spinning through the air before splashing back in. A setting like this offers something interesting to talk about and gives you a chance to be yourself and really get to know that other person.
For those of you that live outside of Tampa, FL hopefully this idea will get you to think outside the box and find an adventurous dating destination in your neck of the woods. It’s easy! Just pick your favorite search engine and use key words like attractions, tourism and sightseeing coupled with your city and state; hit enter and start planning your Valentine’s Day exploration!
Until next time, here’s to keeping you Safer in the City!
By: Jami Wright
As time goes on it is difficult to keep things exciting and hot. This is usually because people get settled and comfortable. There is nothing wrong with comfort in a relationship. Comfort adds security and allows people to relax and show their true selves. But relationships still need that spice. Here is another tip on how to keep your relationship exciting.
Try surprising your partner with a date
Often times when couples get settled and comfortable the idea of going out on a date is not the first thing that comes to mind. Many times dating becomes a rare occurrence; if not obsolete. Here are some great ideas on surprising your partner with a date.
* Make a surprise visit to your partner’s workplace during lunch.
* Pack a lunch and take your partner out on an afternoon picnic.
* Make a meal and buy a bottle of wine and have a picnic on the living room floor
* Set up a weekend getaway and arrive at your partner’s work on Friday with bags packed and take off together for a surprise getaway.
* Take your partner to the place you first met or to the place of your first date.
Come up with a date idea that works for you and your partner. You would know the best thing for both of you. Once you enjoy that first date, make a plan to go out every other week. You dated when you first met, why would you not keep doing something that worked in the first place. continue reading
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